#1 NYT bestselling author Linda Lael Miller

Two blogs in one

I started the first part of this blog last Friday and, due to general principle, I was interrupted. 

So here’s the first one, entitled, “Goals vs Desires”

I have another squash waiting, and I’ll probably fix it over the weekend, (I did, but I haven’t eaten it yet) but you can bet it will be by my usual method.  :)

Are any of you wondering what I meant when I said Danielle LaPorte’s book (THE DESIRE MAP) had inspired me to take a fresh look at goal-setting?

I’ve probably attended dozens of motivational seminars in my life, hearing such ground-breakers as Zig Ziglar, Brian Tracy, and Tony Robbins.  I’ve read their books, listened to their recordings, and put a lot of their suggestions into practice.  I’ve enjoyed a great deal of success over my career because of the techniques these amazing guys (and some terrific women, too) taught, and I will probably always use a lot of them–especially Brian Tracy’s List of 20, which I’ve talked about on the blog before.

And yet.  I’m older now and, frankly, the kind of goals I used to chase sound like just that–things to be chased.  (And really, how much is enough?  I’ve earned what I have, that’s true–but I have plenty.  So ‘more’ is not really pertinent here, at least for me.)

Danielle’s approach is quite different–she lists desires, instead of goals, and concentrates on how achieving those objectives will make her feel.  Why do I love this concept?  Because desires are free-flowing, rather than rigid.  Desires leave room for serendipity, for growth and change, and they don’t need ‘achieve by’ dates attached to them.  Desires are the softer, gentler way to live the best possible life–if one approaches them in that spirit.  (Note: We’re discussing wholesome desires here, not the kind we’ve been warned against, and rightly so, down through the ages.)

Basically, there aren’t a lot of material desires on my list–but there are plenty of spiritual, emotional, mental and physical ones.  (You may be younger, with LOTS of material desires, and that’s okay, too.  We all live our lives in stages.)  For instance, I want to keep myself as healthy as possible, on every level, so I can continue doing what I do for as long as possible, and loving every minute of it!  I want to try new things and make discoveries, and if there are a few squash casualties along the way, so be it.  :)

I want to become a better writer with each book, and a better person with each day.  Instead of focusing on the passing years, I choose to believe that I’m actually in my prime, that I’ve garnered some wisdom along the way, and that my very best experiences are still ahead.  Instead of harping on things in the past that I wish I could change, I want to remember that I am a child of God, beloved, forgiven and redeemed, that I am that 100th sheep my Shepherd will always search for, find and carry home in His strong arms, tucked against His heart.  And so are you.

So, how to do you CHOOSE to feel today, my friend?

Part two: I and the family Stone

It’s amazing what a difference my gemstones and crystals make in my life–I can be stressed-out, running every which way, unable to focus or concentrate, but if I simply pick up a stone in each hand, I feel an immediate change in my deepest vibrations.  Just like that, I’m calm.  Moss agate, for instance, is more powerful for me than any tranquilizer could ever be, and, of course, much healthier!  I’ve seen people respond to stones in instant and incredible ways, and that, too, makes a believer out of a person in short order.

Here’s what I believe about gemstones and crystals, in essence:

1. They are composed of energy, like everything else in the universe, and that energy is powerful indeed.  It is also positive in nature, but it must be directed consciously and wisely.

2. They reconnect us to Mother Earth in a very real way, hence grounding us.  (No pun intended.)  In this day and age, too many of us never actually come into direct contact with the planet itself.

3. They are not magical and they should never be worshipped–they are, however, very much alive, a vital and fundamental element of God’s Creation, and should be treated with genuine respect.  Moreover, to know them is to love them–which is why I call mine ‘the family Stone’.  :)  (And why we fanatics like to say we work with crystals.  We do NOT ‘use’ them.)

4. While gems and minerals have solid traditional meanings, born of long, long observation, they are also incredibly flexible, and, in my experience, they will ‘tell’ you, intuitively, how to relate to them.  You will be drawn to the ones you need most at the moment.

5. Finally, crystals do not change the outer world–they change you, primarily by raising your energetic frequencies to synch with theirs.  For example, citrine is considered a “money” stone–though it has myriad other qualities–but the stone itself does not draw funds out of the ether, geni-in-the-lamp style.  Instead, citrine attunes you to a vibration matching that of abundance.  Alignment with anything, good or bad, will cause the object of your attention to manifest. 

That said, remember that a new contest begins today.  Get those comments in.




45 comments to “Two blogs in one”

  1. Pam Brewer
      · January 20th, 2014 at 11:38 am · Link

    I know you’ve mentioned it before, but what are some good websites to learn more about gemstones? Thanks for the tips. And I’m going to look up some good squash recipes too.

  2. Lois Rotella
      · January 20th, 2014 at 11:39 am · Link

    That is very interesting about stones or gems or crystals. I am going to look into this. I like the idea od desires also. Have a happy day may it be calming and peaceful.

  3. Teresa Fordice
      · January 20th, 2014 at 11:50 am · Link

    Very good news today! Many thanks!!

  4. Gloria
      · January 20th, 2014 at 11:52 am · Link

    I, too, want to be healthy, and, even at my age, I’d still like some of life’s material desires. There are so many things that people my age still do not have, like good trasportation, warm homes, and good food.

    The comment that was made a while back about good food being more expensive than junk food is so true.

    But, I am thankful I do have a house, as it does have walls, a roof, and a floor. Some people do not even have that. God is good. So are a lot of people.

    Thanks Linda!!

  5. Denise King
      · January 20th, 2014 at 12:07 pm · Link

    Interesting reading today, will look into the gemstones and crystals. Have a blessed and beautiful day Linda

  6. Deborah Rae Nelson
      · January 20th, 2014 at 12:32 pm · Link

    Thanks for the new directions for goal setting. :wink:

  7. Debbie g
      · January 20th, 2014 at 12:39 pm · Link

    Linda, you talk about your writing at the computer, I have seen advertisements on TV this past Christmas season and see it still occasionally. It is for dragon. It suppose to be a kit or something like that where You can talk into a head set and it writes what you are say. Since it is on TV it is probably in stores like maybe Best Buy, or Costco or SAMs. Just something U might be interested in. It is a program for Computer, I think.

  8. Rosemary
      · January 20th, 2014 at 12:42 pm · Link

    Thank you, I certainly have a long list if desires, not all self directed, so I had better start my list ASAP.

    May you have a safe and productive week filled with love and joy and story telling!

  9. Sherry Wallace
      · January 20th, 2014 at 12:58 pm · Link

    Very interesting blog, Linda. I was glad you clarified the workings of those gem stones. I have never felt anything towards them except an admiration of their beauty. Do you believe all stones affect people the same way, or at least in some kind of way? Have a great week :)
    Blessings today,

  10. Cecelia Kelsey
      · January 20th, 2014 at 1:16 pm · Link

    I am interested in your work with crystals. I grew up near a reservation and have always been fascinated with their use of different stones in jewelry and different items. I am going to do some research in this area. Thanks for your comments on this medium.

  11. Diana E
      · January 20th, 2014 at 1:37 pm · Link

    I find your comments about The Desire Map interesting. I’m thinking about looking into it.
    As always, Linda, your blog inspiring. Have a good and fruitful week. Blessings

  12. Effie Rome
      · January 20th, 2014 at 1:39 pm · Link

    As I get older I like the idea of desires instead of chasing goals. I know that I’m much more calm now and I don’t let things/actions bother me as much as I use to. To me there is always tomorrow, even tho I don’t know how many more tomorrows the good Lord will provide me, but I’m sure it will be enough. He has a plan for me and I’ve seen that in what hurdles he has given me lately to climb and with his help I’ve managed to complete them. Thus, desires have come out of what life has handed me of late. I like that much better than goals!

  13. judy
      · January 20th, 2014 at 1:42 pm · Link

    You are a great writter. You have some great comments today.
    None of us came worry about the past, just learn from it and take one day at a time. I am reading Big sky secrets and it is great.

  14. Carletta Culp
      · January 20th, 2014 at 1:43 pm · Link

    Have you been to Sedona Arizona? What you are writing about, crystals, gems and health reminds me of what this town is all about. I am interested in reading more about them and of course taking care of my health is most important. Love your books please keep writing them…

    • linda
        · January 21st, 2014 at 12:56 pm · Link

      Been there many times, as I lived near Scottsdale for 8 years.

  15. Maryjane Hoffman
      · January 20th, 2014 at 1:49 pm · Link

    Happy Monday! I so enjoy your adventures with the squash and remember when my Nana cooked her squash! Now my Mom was another story, squash, no way!! I had a Great Aunt who lived with us and she loved to tell stories about her small collection of gems and stones that she had collected during her travels out West and they always fascinated me. And I like the idea of your word, desire. As always I enjoy your blogs for they offer so many interesting topic’s and that I love!

  16. Leanna
      · January 20th, 2014 at 1:54 pm · Link

    You love squash so much. Do you eat varieties other than the spaghetti squash? I love butternut squash roasted with fresh rosemary.

    • linda
        · January 21st, 2014 at 12:57 pm · Link

      I love butternut and acorn, also zuchini and yellow squash. :) I’ll try the rosemary version–thanks.

  17. Virginia Horton
      · January 20th, 2014 at 2:40 pm · Link

    Great post Linda! Your post are so uplifting, I love them. I don’t know much about stone but maybe I sould look into them. I have some kind of healing stone but not sure what it is. It has purple crystals in it. Also I am not a squash eater and so I have never fixed it.

  18. Kathy Andrews
      · January 20th, 2014 at 2:56 pm · Link

    This double blog contain words I needed to hear today. Thank you for taking the time to share your thoughts with us. You touched me.

  19. Ida C
      · January 20th, 2014 at 3:11 pm · Link

    Love hearing about the family stones and how you are affected by them. That is something I intend to investigate this year. Am also going to try the squash one day soon as well.
    Keep well and keep writing. We need your stories. Hugs.

  20. Jayne Jageler
      · January 20th, 2014 at 3:33 pm · Link

    I am the first to admit I know nothing about the energy from crystals and minerals. I will say this idea is fascinating. I will have to find out more about them. I also have started to connect with my spiritual self. I find my time learning the Bible are my most enjoyable of the day. Thank you for passing along the Daily Audio Bible with Brian Hardin. He truly is a blessing. It’s going to be an amazing year.

  21. gloria bare
      · January 20th, 2014 at 3:51 pm · Link

    Just bought some spaghetti squash and I am checking out recipes. I am trying to eat healthier this year, and se weight in the process. I do have a question, I tried to find the new piece of jewelry on Montana Silversmiths web sight. Apparently it’s not there yet. Do you know when it will be offered? I have the other pieces and really do want this one as well.

  22. lynn hogan
      · January 20th, 2014 at 3:58 pm · Link

    I totally see what you mean. Enjoy life…..people. …and what you do….

  23. Kimberly Dawn
      · January 20th, 2014 at 4:07 pm · Link

    As usual, you get me thinking. I just might have to look into the gemstones and crystals more. Where do people get them?

    • linda
        · January 21st, 2014 at 12:59 pm · Link

      I get a lot of mine on ebay–good books to start you off are “The Crystal Bible” and “The Book of Stones.” We also have a very nice shop here in Spokane called Wonders of the World.

      • Kimberly Dawn
          · January 21st, 2014 at 1:04 pm · Link

        Thank you. I will look into those books and look at ebay too.

  24. Jo-Ann Baker
      · January 20th, 2014 at 4:57 pm · Link

    Hi Linda, Waiting for a new book to come out. Rereading some of the old ones. Love them Creeds an Mckettricks. Today is my Granddaughters 9th Birthday. They are all growning up to fast. My oldest is 13 and youngest will be one on Feb 4th. Love them all. You have a wonderful day and keep the books comeing. :)

  25. Ruby Norwood
      · January 20th, 2014 at 5:39 pm · Link

    You have some great comments today Linda. I am going to find me some gemstones, don’t know much about crystals and minerals, but going to check on that also.

  26. Terrie Fulk
      · January 20th, 2014 at 6:53 pm · Link

    I am loving learning about the different gemstones and what there “powers” are and how they can enhance different things going on inside of me. I want to thank you again for introducing this concept to me. I also like the way you use desire instead of goals. I agree with you that desires are not as stringent as goals.

  27. Juanita Rice
      · January 20th, 2014 at 6:53 pm · Link

    Now I really have to try spaghetti squash. :)

  28. Diane Shea
      · January 20th, 2014 at 7:17 pm · Link

    I really enjoy your new letters left especially about what you are go to cook.

  29. Heather Charity
      · January 20th, 2014 at 7:46 pm · Link

    Wish I’d taken more time (while I’ve been off with my kids) to take up a hobby like rocks and crystals. I’m fascinated.

  30. Terri Shortell
      · January 20th, 2014 at 8:00 pm · Link

    I loved the info on stones. Good luck with your squash. Lol

  31. Norma Stanforth
      · January 20th, 2014 at 8:30 pm · Link

    Hi Linda thank you for today blog. I would like to know more about gemstones. Some of them are really beautiful. God is the only thing we should worship.That is a true fact. God is our Savior. Blessings to each and everyone.
    As always your friend,

  32. midge watkins
      · January 20th, 2014 at 8:48 pm · Link

    Linda, your double blog was especially interesting today. I
    loved your comment about living life in stages. I’ve always felt
    that God made us in a way that we experience feeling, emotions, times of learning, etc. at certain times in our lives; not before and (hopefully, not after). Each chapter holds it’s
    own mysteries. I also thought (for lack of further knowledge)
    that the crystals and gemstones were “New Age” stuff that I
    do not share and interest in, but your description urge me to
    look into them. Thank you. Reading Big Sky Secrets and
    enjoying every minute.

  33. Lea Wlliams
      · January 20th, 2014 at 10:29 pm · Link

    I always enjoy reading your blog. I believe certainly that we live life in stages. My life now does not resemble what it did in earlier years. I am not into stones/minerals but when I need to relax I pick up the quilt I am quilting (by hand). I can get lost in the little stitches. Bless you.,

  34. Connie Johnson
      · January 20th, 2014 at 11:20 pm · Link

    I think the stones are beautiful, I am not sure about their power.

  35. Eileen Tallach
      · January 20th, 2014 at 11:43 pm · Link

    Hi Linda.
    I believe we are made up of atoms and these atoms enter and exit our body’s constently so therefore crystals and gemstones are apart of us all. So too are sand crystals from as far away as the Sahara dessert and dust from the Grand Canyon. If you get an opportunity to watch the movie ‘I Am’ it’s a fabulous!! And speaks of these principles.

    • linda
        · January 21st, 2014 at 1:01 pm · Link

      Fabulous insight–thank you!

  36. ,carole
      · January 21st, 2014 at 10:55 am · Link

    Hi! I love reading your blogs for you tell us some new information and I would never have know about stones and crystals, its so interesting and something for me to think about and may try! Thanks! I saw your book at the bookstore but was looking for a birthday gift for my daughter but going to buy it this weekend for sure-love your stories and need to read Big Sky Secret! Have a great week!

  37. Joyce M.
      · January 21st, 2014 at 11:07 am · Link

    Interesting concept of goals vs. desires. Never looked at it that way.

  38. Judy Cooper
      · January 21st, 2014 at 11:42 am · Link

    I look forward to your message each day. I learn something each day. I’m an older fan. You are right about material things. All I ask is to have my needs met and I am blessed that they are. So many people do not even have that. The Lord has been good to me. Thank you.

  39. Tammy R. Dodson
      · January 21st, 2014 at 1:59 pm · Link

    Enjoyed reading your blog today. Sending best wishes from a cold, but no snow (luckily) Kansas City, Missouri.

  40. Emily
      · January 22nd, 2014 at 8:28 am · Link

    Loved your blog. It is “spot on”, about so many things.

    Have been out of town due to sickness in the family. Was not close to a computer, so lost last weeks blog.

    Have a great week. Stay well.

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