#1 NYT bestselling author Linda Lael Miller

Top of the Morning

Okay, it’s more like the tag-end of the morning–but I’ve finally arrived.  :)

My new exercise bike is set up and I’m already riding it–starting small, though, with five minutes in the morning and five in the afternoon.  I plan to work up to 30 minutes total.  There are only THREE MORE DAYS left in the induction part of the program, then it becomes a lifestyle.  So much better than a diet, don’t you think?  I don’t think I’ll change much about the way I’m eating–except for swapping out a fast-carb for wine at either lunch or supper.  :)

Looking out over the snowy slope of the draw behind my house, I can picture a riot of poppies blooming under a summer sun, and that does my heart good.  Same with the plant pots on the deck; right now they’re frozen, and wearing caps of snow, but I know the magic is stirring in the essence of what is now a relatively ugly bulb.  I can SEE the colors coming together, first as energy, beneath all that dirt.  (That’s the upside of having a well-developed imagination.  The downside is something else again.  For instance, when I’m expecting someone and they’re late, I don’t picture them held up in traffic or stopping off for a gallon of milk along the way.  No, I see grim headlines or a TV news clip.  Yeesh.  I’m working on that.)

I’m listening to a positively GREAT book now, called “The As If Principle”.  We’ve all heard of acting as if, especially if we’ve had contact with any of the 12 step programs, but this book gives all sorts of scientific evidence, and it’s fascinating.  If you’re feeling blue, try smiling–no matter how hard it is at first.  It works!  Instead of telling yourself you can’t do something, act as if you believed you could and see what happens.

And that’s this week’s contest.  :)  Have you ever had an experience with acting-as-if–aka fake it till you make it–and if you did, what happened?  If you haven’t, try it this week–it doesn’t have to be anything big–and describe it in your comment.

I’ve got a book waiting, so that’s all for today, folks.

Remember–a smile or a kind word can change the whole course of a person’s life.  Or a pet’s.


18 comments to “Top of the Morning”

  1. Anne Little
      · January 16th, 2013 at 3:23 pm · Link

    I do this allot. I adopt the attitude or mood needed to get through one day to the next. I swear it works better then the pills they give me. Makes them work faster too. Its true about what they say about attitude. If you believe in something hard enough you can make it happen. I think its a form of retraining and positive re-inforcement. I mentally visualize myself without the pounds, without pain, myself completing a task like cleaning the house and then tell myself I have already started and I am completing the task.

    Believe it or not this was not always easy for me, still isn’t. I have to really battle to maintain the thoughts. I am learning that it is also not a good idea where pain and symptoms are concerned. I promised my Doctor I would not do this unless I tell someone what I am doing or make a record of it because it makes his job harder. Okay, I can see where it would mask symptoms. But imagining or adopting an attitude of success in other area’s of my life has given me a new confidence in my own abilities. It gives me a feeling of control in my life where I felt I had no control or confidence. I am glad you mentioned the title I need to read this book. I use this method with personal meditation to relieve stress as well.

  2. Betty Hamilton
      · January 16th, 2013 at 3:31 pm · Link

    Between work and night school I knew that I needed more training on speaking in front of people. I signed up for a class in public speaking. Part of the start of the instruction was to introduce yourself to the class while being taped. I stood up there AS IF I were not afraid and knew just what to do. I was terrified and felt that that was probably what I projected. I was amazed to view the finished tape to see the woman who introduced herself cool as a cucumber… AS IF she (I) had been doing it all her life. This was the most memorable training from all of the classes and instruction that I took for this skill set. I still remember its lesson over 30 years later.

  3. Betsy
      · January 16th, 2013 at 3:49 pm · Link

    AS if-I try very hard to remain positive in the face of difficulty; perhaps this is the best example.
    In 2009, the Library tried for a bond issue. The voters said no, even though the City had said that finances being what they were, that the library would have it’s budget cut in half. We lost 4 libraries (and most of their collections) and 40 staff. In the face of this our challenge was to continue serving customers,even those who voted against us. So me smiled and served as if we had not a problem in the world-and it pretty much worked! Our customers were grateful for the remaining libraries-even those who asked “What election?”

  4. Rebecca (Becky) Hicks
      · January 16th, 2013 at 3:51 pm · Link

    As if :-) I like the “fake it til you make it!” Actually, much of my career was just that. Ever stand in front of 30-40 12-19 yr olds, all by yourself? If you have kids, think about this: ever try to get your teen to do WHAT you want her/him to do, HOW you want, WHEN you want? Multiply that by 30-40 in one small room, then add ALL AT THE SAME TIME! And by yourself! It takes a lot of “fake it,” at least ’til you make your “street cred”! A teacher’s rep is sooo impt. Remember that old lady senior Eng teacher–strict, mean, tough, hard, demanding. That was me. (Grammar is wrong but works.) But I still run into “my kids” who give a hug & thank you & say “Listen to her!!” Yeah! :wink:

  5. Mary Stahlecker
      · January 16th, 2013 at 4:17 pm · Link

    I have acted as if. It really does work. I am in a program that encourages it. :-? :-?

  6. Lynn Palmatier
      · January 16th, 2013 at 6:25 pm · Link

    Linda, if you are trying to loose inches, exercise will work well. If you want to loose weight, watch you’re eating and the habit foods that you think you can’t live without. Knock down the high carb foods. Doc told me to become mostly vegetarian to loose. I have lost inches(1 dress size) with exercise but once I changed watching what I eat, then I lost weight. If you don’t watch the carbs it is hard to get started again. Good luck.

  7. Sherry Wallace
      · January 16th, 2013 at 6:53 pm · Link

    You are so right about a smile & kind word to other people & animals!! Your pets (& children, too) live to hear those kind words & smiles! I just finished an older book of your, Corbin’s Fancy. Didn’t know it was about the brother of Adam in Banner O’Brien, which I had read several years ago. Love them both!! I see differences in your earlier books & more recent ones. Pets are more prevalent in your newer books, for one thing, which I love. But then the older books have more physical action going on it seems; more love scenes, too :-). My fake it till you make it story encompasses my entire life, really. As a child & young woman, I was painfully shy. Others took advantage, & my first husband rode rough shod all over me!! I wouldn’t stand up for myself & that is no way to live out your life – with no self confidence! Well, I finally took hold of things, grew a backbone, & gradually became more assertive. Change was a little bit at a time, however, but over time I became an entirely different person, not to mention much happier :-)
    Blessings to you & all your readers,

  8. Norma Stanforth
      · January 16th, 2013 at 9:43 pm · Link

    All of my granddaughters, call me smilie be cause i went around smiling at everyone all the time. They told me i was going to have wrinkles real bad. I told them if you smiled at people it may brighten their day.If you say a kind word to people, you never know what kind of an impacted on their life.But if you don;t say anything to them be having a bad day!They my get it into their head that they are nobody and that no one cares for them,an go and kill them self.So you should always smile and speak to people to people no matter how bad you feel, because you could save someone life. God bless you and have a great day. Jesus loves you and so do i.
    Norma Stanforth

  9. Norma Stanforth
      · January 16th, 2013 at 10:06 pm · Link

    I am sorry for some of my mistake in the previous article. I have been sick an it seems like i make a lot of mistakes.Thank you for understanding. God bless you all.

  10. Veda Funk
      · January 16th, 2013 at 10:50 pm · Link

    When looking back at my life; I have faked it most of my life; and now that I am getting older; on the down hill slide; over 50 I find that I still draw on what I learned as a child. I always wanted a husband and kids; instead I am using what I imagined to take care of two elderly parents that sometimes act like they are 2 instead of in their 80’s. Several years ago; I stood in front a group of 6th graders and was challenged to teach them something new in regards to computers. I did it and still have kids that say thank you for what you taught me. I love that and even though I didn’t have children from my body; I had lots of kids to love and take care of.

    • Hilda
        · January 17th, 2013 at 1:34 pm · Link

      Veda, I SO relate to your comments! I too would have loved to have a husband and kids, but I ended up helping care for my sister’s kids (and still am, I have 3 of them living in my small home) and it hasn’t always been easy or pleasant, let me tell you! I’m blessed that my 90-yr old Dad is still spry enough to sort-of take care of himself since Mom passed 2 years ago, but I still drive the 2-1/2 hr drive to visit and do chores for him every other Saturday. Oh did I mention on top of all that I still work, 10 hours a day? When they do thank me for all I’ve done, it’s well worth the worry, stress, sacrifice, grief, etc. Hang in there. I firmly believe we have rewards waiting for us!!

  11. Pat Aman
      · January 17th, 2013 at 12:51 am · Link

    I’m sure I’ve acted “as if” in the past but nothing comes to mind right now. So, for this week/month, I’m going to act as if I’m not tired when I “think” I’m tired and want to veg out in front of the TV! :)

  12. donna harris
      · January 17th, 2013 at 5:34 am · Link

    I think as if all the time. When I was sick and bedridden for two years it was as if always. At first the doctors said I was going to die in six months. Laying there in the nursing home I would think when I get out of here there’s so much I haven’t done in life that I’m going to do. First I would try my hardest to raise my leg up and down on the bed, now that was positive thinking. When I did lift it a hair up I was so excited. I worked at it then finally I was able to get it up about an inch. I knew I had a long way to go but I did it. I even worked on feeding myself again. When a CNA would come to take care of me I would smile and talk to them, by the time they left the room they were laughing,the same with the hospice lady, they would say I had a positive attitude the way I have adjusted to my illness. The second as if was when the doctor said I wouldn’t walk again. My boyfriend took me out of the nursing home to live with him, in another state, he said we’ll get you seeing some doctors because your not dying and we’ll get you better. I would sit in bed I would picture myself walking across that floor doing this and that. Well a lot of therapy and hard work, I’m walking now with a cane. The third as if, I’ve wanted to get back on a horse again for years, well after 40 yrs I’m now back on a horse doing therapy exercises to strengthen my legs and balance. Thinking of the trail ride this summer. Now if I can as if the chronic pain to go away, I’ve been working on this for 8 yrs. All my life it’s been as if, but I always smile and happy and look forward to tomorrow to see what it will bring me. I do try to make other peoples like meaningful. Just a smile, a hi, or a compliment makes them feel good.
    I’m glad to hear that your taking it slow on the treadmill. One thing I learned in all that therapy is take it slow and increase slowly because it could do more harm than do you good. Take care!
    I hope I didn’t write too much and make you bored!

    • Norma Stanforth
        · January 17th, 2013 at 4:18 pm · Link

      Hi Donna,
      Your experience is similar to mine. I was in the nursing home for 2 months, when i got read to leave, everyone hated to see me leave.I had some nurses tell me that i was the best patient they had ever had, and they told me they loved me.The doctor told me before i left that i would be back in the nursing home to stay before lone. I told them not if i could help it. So i am working on staying home. Good luck Donna, and i will be praying for you,God bless you. Norma :roll:

      • donna harris
          · January 18th, 2013 at 6:39 pm · Link

        Thank you Norma, I’ll be praying for you also. I’m glad you got to go home, now just stay there. I hope and pray you or I never have to go back there. My mom will be turning 90 in a month and I promised her I would not let anyone put here there. I’ve told her I would take care of her as long as I could. But being disabled myself I don’t how I can take care of her. I’ll never tell her that to worry her. If I didn’t have to lift her I could somehow take care of her. Nobody knows how bad the nursing home is unless they been there their self. It sounds like you were a good patient and everyone loved ya. They were happy I was getting out and it was like a party. They said that now maybe I could get the help I need. After I left I did. I’ll be thinking of you and you will always be in my prays. God Bless you Norma!

  13. Kathie
      · January 17th, 2013 at 1:46 pm · Link

    As usual, I am running way behind. I just had to pop in to say I received my signed book and wonderful bracelet yesterday. Iwas so excited to win and will cherish them forever. Linda, please tell your sister that I love the bracelet, it is so pretty. Also wanted to say thank you for all your motivation and inspiration, not to mention all the wonderful stories you give us. You are awesome and we love you. Many Blessings for you in the coming year. God Bless!!!!!

  14. Janice Hougland
      · January 17th, 2013 at 2:47 pm · Link

    Well, yes! When I was in my 40’s and looking for a job as a legal secretary (and my hubby was out of work), I applied for a job with a law firm that practiced a different kind of law than what I was used to. Frequently, law firms will accept only those who have had prior experience with the type of law they practice. But I was desperate! So I applied and lied. Is that the same as faking it? :wink: Anyway, I got the job. And not only did I do well at the new type of law I was working with, I found I was quite good at it and was commended for it. And so when my hubby and I moved yet again, to a larger city where work was more plentiful, I continued in that “new” type of legal work because the job offers were more plentiful. I stayed in that field until I retired from it in 2009…altogether a successful career for me.

  15. Lea Williams
      · January 17th, 2013 at 5:38 pm · Link

    Several years ago I had a small stroke. At the moment I was sure I wouldn’t ride again, BUT I changed my mind and said I will and I did. I looked out the window at the horses and I could see my self on my horse. Three weeks after my stroke, I was riding my horse Dixie Chix in the snow. It was wonderful.

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