#1 NYT bestselling author Linda Lael Miller

The Gratitude Attitude

On this Thanksgiving Eve, I want to wish you and yours the happiest of celebrations.  

Over the past few years, I’ve made an effort to be thankful not just on the 4th Thursday of November, but every single day.  I’ve kept gratitude journals for a long time, and I believe this practice is one of the best things I’ve ever done.  I don’t get around to writing down my blessings every day, but most of the time, I do.  I list 10 things I’m grateful for, and I’ve added a twist, inspired by author Melody Beattie: I include things I might interpret as inconvenient or even ‘bad’ at the time.  Why?  Because the God I worship knows what He’s doing, and many, many of these incidents turn out to be the best blessings of all, once some time has passed and I have more perspective.

For instance, years (and years) ago, I really thought I’d sold my first novel, FLETCHER’S WOMAN, to a certain publisher.  There were phone calls, etc.  I sent the manuscript off with high hopes, and waited breathlessly for a reply.  Well, I got one, and it was a big, fat NO.  I mean, there wasn’t even a rejection slip!  I was devastated, spent a whole day on the couch, like an invalid.  (All I needed was a rose stem to hold in my teeth.)  Luckily, the drama phase didn’t last long, but I was really disappointed.

Several months later, Linda Marrow, then an assistant editor at Pocket Books, called to say she’d liked the proposal for “Fletcher’s Woman” and would like to see the rest of the manuscript.  Suffice it to say, I didn’t allow myself to get very excited.  I didn’t want another emotional wipe-out.  I sent the book off to New York and tried not to think about it, but, more importantly, I was hard at work on a brand new story by then.  On February 14, 1983, editor Kate Duffy, then Linda’s boss, called.  I had just come in from a meeting of Wendy’s Brownie troop–it was getting close to cookie-selling time, so all us moms got together for a pow-wow.  Back then, nobody had call-waiting, let alone caller-ID, so I just said a rather rushed ‘hello’ and–well–Kate told me Pocket wanted to buy the book!  I was thrilled, naturally.  That first sale led to two decades of Pocket Books publishing my books.

Oh, and that other company?  The one I didn’t get a rejection slip from?  Let’s just say, I’m oh so grateful they DIDN’T buy my book.  

I remember that experience every time something doesn’t go the way I’d hoped it would.

And that’s enough rambling for today.  Have a wonderful Thanksgiving!  I’ll blog again on Friday.

29 comments to “The Gratitude Attitude”

  1. Theresa
      · November 23rd, 2016 at 8:21 pm · Link

    Happy Thanksgiving Linda!!

  2. carole fiore
      · November 23rd, 2016 at 8:23 pm · Link

    Happy Thanksgiving! So grateful to be alive to spend time with my first grandson Tuff!

  3. Terri S
      · November 23rd, 2016 at 8:27 pm · Link

    Hi Linda,
    I’m grateful Pocket Books was smart enough to buy your book and to continue buying them for so long. You have given me the chance to have adventures and escape the real world for many years. Thank you for that. Happy Thanksgiving everyone!!!

  4. Paula L Rollins
      · November 23rd, 2016 at 8:31 pm · Link

    God truly moves in mysterious ways, His wonders to preform…Love your books and that you are sharing your talents with us…HAVE a blessed holiday season

  5. Ann Bartholomew
      · November 23rd, 2016 at 8:37 pm · Link

    I’ve read Fletcher’s Woman several times and like it better each time. I’m so glad you found the right publisher!

  6. Virginia Horton
      · November 23rd, 2016 at 8:43 pm · Link

    So glad you found the right publisher.

    Happy Thanksgiving everyone!

  7. Ruby Norwood
      · November 23rd, 2016 at 8:53 pm · Link

    So glad you found the right publisher!! Happy Thanksgiving. !!

  8. Gloria Herring
      · November 23rd, 2016 at 8:58 pm · Link


  9. Lois Rotella
      · November 23rd, 2016 at 9:16 pm · Link

    Happy Thanksgiving

  10. Marge
      · November 23rd, 2016 at 9:24 pm · Link

    Happy Thanksgiving to you and ALL YOUR FAMILY.

    Happy to see you are back, missed you post.

  11. Diane Sallans
      · November 23rd, 2016 at 9:28 pm · Link

    I often say that when things don’t happen as you hoped it may be because something even better is coming. Didn’t get into a particular college – got to meet great people at the one you did go to; didn’t get that house you were bidding on – got one even better!

  12. Jessie R.
      · November 23rd, 2016 at 9:29 pm · Link

    It’s funny the way things turn out. You can plan as much as you like but there is always another plan at work. What’s that commonly used phrase? Oh right…”God Works in mysterious ways”. I am glad that it all worked out for you. I love your books and I am elated that I get the opportunity to read them because Pocket Books published your work. I will say that if I had never gone to the Krogers next to the movie theater as I waited for the movie to start, I never would’ve found Arizona Heat, I wouldn’t have found the website in the back of the book, and I wouldn’t be commenting now. Thank God I did because I love the online community you have created as well as your excellent stories.

      · November 23rd, 2016 at 9:34 pm · Link


  14. Leanna
      · November 23rd, 2016 at 9:36 pm · Link

    As someone with a chronic illness, I am thankful everyday day that I wake up feeling good because I remember how sick I can get. Happy Thanksgiving!

  15. Laska Bull
      · November 23rd, 2016 at 9:44 pm · Link

    Happy Thanksgiving!!! Linda to you and your family.

    ~Laska Bull

  16. midge watkins
      · November 23rd, 2016 at 9:53 pm · Link

    You have such great ideas! Happy Thanksgiving.

  17. Lara Wager
      · November 23rd, 2016 at 11:03 pm · Link

    Have a wonderfully Blessed Thanksgiving Miss Linda☺

  18. Sharon Sovereign
      · November 24th, 2016 at 12:40 am · Link

    Yes, I remember exactly where I was and always will. It was a shock to me and the whole country. Happy Thanksgiving.

  19. Marilou Frary
      · November 24th, 2016 at 2:03 am · Link

    Have a wonderful Thanksgiving Linda.

  20. Pat Parker
      · November 24th, 2016 at 2:08 am · Link

    God works in mysterious ways.

  21. Jane
      · November 24th, 2016 at 4:51 am · Link

    As I’ve gotten older I have also learned that when a door closed, it opened other possibilities that I didn’t think of at the time. Many times the results on the second attempt were better… Because of that, I have changed the way I do things and I am happier, more content with my life. Have a wonderful Thanksgiving!

  22. JoAnn Baker
      · November 24th, 2016 at 6:26 am · Link

    Happy Thanksgiving. Enjoy family an friends.

  23. Melaine
      · November 24th, 2016 at 10:52 am · Link

    Happy Thanksgiving to you and all your family.

  24. Linda
      · November 24th, 2016 at 11:55 am · Link

    Happy Thanksgiving

  25. Diana E.
      · November 24th, 2016 at 2:32 pm · Link

    Many Thanksgiving Blessings to you Linda.

  26. Shirley Wetmore
      · November 24th, 2016 at 4:03 pm · Link

    Happy Thanksgiving Linda. Hope you have a great one. We will be celebrating ours tomorrow. Our family and friends will be with others today, so we will have them all tomorrow. God bless you.

  27. Lynn Hogan
      · November 24th, 2016 at 4:56 pm · Link

    Have a wonderful day!

  28. Patricia McLeman
      · November 24th, 2016 at 6:36 pm · Link

    Lovely thoughts Linda. Last thing I do every night is thank the good Lord for each good thing that has happened today one by one.
    I know you will be celebrating quietly this year so enjoy every moment.
    God Bless x

  29. Eugenia Riddick
      · December 1st, 2016 at 10:17 am · Link

    I’m grateful for your becoming an author. Your stories take me to places I’ve never been. My sister always ask as I give her my books to read, “Is there a horse in the story?”. We both enjoy your work.

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