#1 NYT bestselling author Linda Lael Miller

In a Good Place

I’ve made some important decisions lately; some of them are about starting something and some of them are about stopping something.  :)

Have you ever quit a group, not because there was anything wrong with the people in that group,  but because you didn’t like who you were becoming in the context you found yourself in?  I just deleted myself from the Swapbot site, where I’ve been swapping artist trading cards for the last few years, for exactly that reason.  I was getting too worried about whether or not I got a heart when swappers rated my card.  I began to feel angry–sounds silly, doesn’t it?–and of course that took all the fun out of my reason for joining in the first place–making artist trading cards.  It’s a little like that old Marx brothers joke–“Doctor,” one says, while perched on an examining table, “It hurts when I do that.”  (Lifting an arm or a leg, something simple like that).  The doctor whacks the patient on the head and says, “Well, then, don’t do that!”

Me: Doctor, it hurts when I spend hours making an artist trading card and the other person gives me a low rating.

Doctor: (With accompanying whack on the head.)  Then don’t put yourself in that situation!

Oh, the freedom.  I had no idea how much all this was weighing on me.  I can make artist trading cards for the original reason–because I love it.  And now I’m off to do something I love even more than art–writing my new book.

Thanks for lending an ear.

3 comments to “In a Good Place”

  1. rhonda1111
      · August 3rd, 2011 at 7:21 pm · Link

    just read lawman's christmas. loved it.http://readalot-rhonda1111.blogspot.com/ reviewed it a couple of places.

  2. Lynette Killam
      · August 4th, 2011 at 2:50 am · Link

    I feel the same way about Swapbot, or any venue that asks me to pass judgement on someone else's art. It just goes against the spirit of sharing that ATCs celebrate, doesn't it?Have fun writing…

  3. Nyoka
      · August 4th, 2011 at 3:55 pm · Link

    Linda, I feel your pain about the swaps.. I belong to several Card forums and seems when I did a swap I was prompt on getting my partners card just right and out in the mail.. and then I waited… and waited and sometimes didn't receive my card at all… so, like you, I quit putting myself through the stress…Good going!God bless!

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