#1 NYT bestselling author Linda Lael Miller

Black Friday? Not for me. :)

I’ve rechristened today, the 29th of November, 2013, from “black Friday” to “blessed Friday”.  :)  The gratitude we celebrated yesterday lingers, a deep and sweet knowledge that no matter what circumstances we may find ourselves in, there is always reason to offer thanks, whether aloud or in the silence of our hearts.  (This, you see, is where God lives, not in distraction and hurry, not in some far-off heaven, but right here, in that peaceful inner place we call the heart.)

Now, don’t get nervous.  I’m not fixing to preach a sermon, here.  I’m just speaking from my own heart, telling you what’s true for me–and becoming truer not just with every passing day, but with every passing moment.  For all the dangers and challenges out there, I know, as a great philosopher once said, allow me to paraphrase, WHAT LIES WITHOUT IS NOTHING COMPARED TO WHAT LIES WITHIN.  (Or, as the New Testament puts it, “Greater is He that is in you than he that is in the world.”)

Amen to that, friends.

There is a safe place, a place of refuge and peace and plenty, and that place is tucked away behind your very own heartbeat.  Seek, and you shall find–and don’t lose hope if it takes a while.

The first of the holiday contests ends today; as mentioned before, two of you will be notified and awarded either a Barnes and Noble or an Amazon gift card–I’m giving away one of each.

I hope you had a wonderful Thanksgiving, as we did.   I spent the morning puttering, reading, etc., and tossed a small organic turkey in the oven around noon.  Instead of stuffing the bird itself, I wrapped the stuffing in foil and cooked it that way.  It turned out very well, juicy and moist.  Jeremy peeled and cooked and mashed the potatoes, and I whipped up some gravy.  (Yum.)   There were green beans and rolls, and the kids brought pumpkin pie for dessert, along with light Cool Whip.  (Yes, I did indulge–but I didn’t overindulge–that is the gift of viewing Weight Watchers as a way of life rather than a temporary fix.)  Jenni joined us for the meal, and a good time was had by all–including Margie, W & J’s golden retriever, and Bernicie.  (The cats hid out as they always do when there are too many different energies gathered in the house they consider their own and only grudgingly share with me.)

By the time dinner was over, I was too pooped for a movie or any crafting.  I retreated for the night, and the three younger folks hung out for a while, talking and laughing, and just generally having a nice evening.

I listened to more of “The Goldfinch”–I’m close to finishing the story, and very curious about the outcome.  (The hero is going through a dark time, though, and I’ll be glad when–or if–he straightens up and flies right.)  :)  In a good book, in my humble opinion, the characters grow and evolve as people over the course of the story.  If they hit a few rough spots along the way, no worries.  That’s how life is, after all.

Bernice is back from her barn visit and curled up in her office bed.

And I’m expected in Mustang Creek, Wyoming.

Be blessed, and tune in on Monday for another episode.  :)

41 comments to “Black Friday? Not for me. :)”

  1. Leanna
      · November 29th, 2013 at 1:40 pm · Link

    I like your blessed Friday. I will not be shopping today. May shop online for cyberMonday though.

  2. Denise King
      · November 29th, 2013 at 2:01 pm · Link

    Hello Linda, glad you had a great Thanksgiving, I woke up this morning with a smile on my face just thinking about the great time I had with family and friends, Thanking God for another blessed holiday, enjoy your day Linda and LLM group

  3. Marlene Kubick
      · November 29th, 2013 at 2:04 pm · Link

    Well, I was just checking my emails before jumping into sorting through clothes to take to the Mission. I also have Christmas “stuff” that I need to go through quickly since I’m sure they can use those things. Unfortunately, I read your email and now I’m thinking of making a stop in the kitchen for some leftovers. So, I’m sending those calories to you in the email. :) Have a very Blessed Friday. I’m not going anywhere but to the kitchen.

  4. Diana E
      · November 29th, 2013 at 2:06 pm · Link

    I had a lovely Thanksgiving dinner with my son and family and sounds like yours was wonderful too. Today I get to share a birthday with Black Friday and the Civil War Game. Its all good though. Blessings.

  5. Rebecca "Becky" Hicks
      · November 29th, 2013 at 2:07 pm · Link

    I agree about “Black Friday”! I understand the importance of that day to retailers, who employ so many people, and even to small business owners. That is usually when businesses go “in the black” and Christmas shopping is important for a successful year. However, the “Black Friday” name always makes me uncomfortable, not because I don’t believe in capitalism! I do! But my mind and heart always jump to symbolic meanings (I’m a literature teacher, what can I say?) and then connect to Good Friday. And this year so many people seem to be more frantic with wanting more and more “stuff.” And I don’t shop on this day, never have. (I’m very short and crowds make me claustrophobic!) Don’t know–I like “blessed Friday” so much more. A reminder that gratitude for our limitless blessings seems so much more appropriate.

  6. Jane
      · November 29th, 2013 at 2:09 pm · Link

    Thanksgiving was good here in the heartland; I, too, avoid the Black Friday shopping madness. I did walk to town to our local yarn shop and bought some knitting markers. Saturday is shop small…i.e., locally, and I may not make it down there tomorrow, but I try to do that as often as possible. In a small town, that’s not always possible, but the local yarn store gets all my yarn business.

  7. Maryjane Hoffman
      · November 29th, 2013 at 2:13 pm · Link

    Sounds like your Thanksgiving was a most Blessed day! I am an only child so with both sets of parents gone but never forgotten being able to have our children with us along with spouses and grandchildren is extra special for sure! Enjoy your Friday and weekend! Blessings to all!!

  8. Pam (Nedlnut)
      · November 29th, 2013 at 2:14 pm · Link

    I love it – Blessed Friday. We are all blessed in our own way.

  9. Jennifer Damone
      · November 29th, 2013 at 2:14 pm · Link

    Blessed Friday is so much better! There is no deal or sale worth going through what these people do. There is no item I need that bad. I would rather spend the time with my family.

    Good for you with staying on track with Weight Watchers! I become weak when the desserts are around. You are right it is a lifestyle change and not just a diet.

    Hope y’all have a wonderful weekend! :-D

  10. Lorraine Pitts
      · November 29th, 2013 at 2:17 pm · Link

    So very happy to hear that your Thanksgiving was nice. As always your blog makes my day brighter. Thank you Linda.

  11. Sherry Wallace
      · November 29th, 2013 at 2:21 pm · Link

    Beautifully stated, Linda :). Happy you had a great Thanksgiving with family, as did I. Love those Bible quotes, too, some of my favorites! Now it’s time to decorate for Christmas

  12. Alice Johnson
      · November 29th, 2013 at 2:33 pm · Link

    So glad you had a Thankful Thanksgiving! That is what it is all about. My grandchildren scattered all over the world, my daughter an only child, so a very small family, but a loving one! We talked with my grandson, his wife & their 2 daughters, 7 & 9 in S Korea. What on earth would we do without Skype! Other 2 grandchildren in other states, & coming home for a christening later, so had friends over. We had a WW meal for those that wanted it, & the other “stuff” for the skinny ones!! ;)

    I have never shopped on Black Friday. Do not like shopping at all, & to go on the Big Day is not my thing! Actually, we are finished with our Christmas shopping & the pkg for S. Korea enroute …. The TX & AR boxes ready to be shipped Monday! Then I can enjoy my Kindle & talking & texting to other family & friends. Am so thankful all my 3 AF pilots are in safe zones this Christmas that am just beside myself!! God is good ♥

  13. Laura Ann Harris
      · November 29th, 2013 at 2:34 pm · Link


    Glad to hear you had a wonderful Thanksgiving!

    We had five chihuahuas at out Thanksgiving get together. Some adopted and fine are being fostered from the local animal rescue. All are loved beyond measure.

  14. Jane Morgan
      · November 29th, 2013 at 2:53 pm · Link

    Your comments were spot on this morning. Be double blessed on this Friday. May every one feel your love and light. I know I felt it. Have a good day!

  15. Jeanne Corrigan
      · November 29th, 2013 at 3:07 pm · Link

    Well said. My nephew started us on a new phrase: “HE>I”
    We even bought bumper stickers to spread the word.

  16. Terrie Fulk
      · November 29th, 2013 at 3:14 pm · Link

    We had a wonderful Thanksgiving. We had many things to be grateful for. I love the way you put your feelings of God into words. I agree with you and couldn’t have put it more beautifully. I am staying in today. Not willing to be overwhelmed with all the shoppers out there today.

  17. Cindy Zint
      · November 29th, 2013 at 3:41 pm · Link

    A Happy Belated Thanksgiving to you and yours! And I agree with you about “Black Friday”, where did that name come from anyway? I like your version and if you don’t mind am going to adopt it too! Happy Blessed Friday! There is always something to be thankful for, no matter how big, no matter how small. Have a Blessed evening! :-)

  18. debbie g
      · November 29th, 2013 at 3:59 pm · Link

    Linda, many people do not know or have a vague memory of what the Blue Law was. Basically, it was no stores were open on Sundays and holidays with few exceptions of some gas stations and convient stores. I even think those that were were paid an exception fee that was not cheap. Of course the essential people worked like police, fireman, hospital personnel, etc. On the big Christmas rush my mom, grandmother, aunts and whoever else would get up at 5am to go to Filenes basement, Jordan Marsh and all the big named stores. I wish those days were back again when family get togethers happenedand families looked forward to them. But I digress, I hope all had a good Thanksgiving and remembered all those who keep us safe.

  19. Carol Miller White
      · November 29th, 2013 at 5:02 pm · Link

    I could not agree more — no Black Friday shopping for me either. Glad you had a pleasant Thanksgiving with people you love. I did as well . . .

  20. Juanita Rice
      · November 29th, 2013 at 5:11 pm · Link

    It sounds like a lovely time was had by all. :) I know there was too much food at our gathering…as always happens, but nothing ever seems to go to waste.

    Wishing a peaceful weekend for all. :)

  21. Ida C
      · November 29th, 2013 at 5:12 pm · Link

    Good to hear you had a lovely Thanksgiving. Deep thoughts today, but I agree, you have to be happy with yourself. You can’t look to others for your happiness. That’s what I took from your message. Keep on keeping on. Love to hear from you. Have a wonderful weekend.

  22. Joyce M.
      · November 29th, 2013 at 5:20 pm · Link

    The only shopping I’m doing is on the computer. Have a blessed weekend.

  23. Deborah Rae Nelson
      · November 29th, 2013 at 5:42 pm · Link

    I’m with Joyce; the only shopping I do is online in the comfort of my own home.

    I love to ponder and enjoy the process of comparing and thinking about my purchases. :wink:

  24. Emily
      · November 29th, 2013 at 6:21 pm · Link

    Love your blessed Friday. So true, so true.

    I do not go shopping on Black Friday. I stay with family and enjoy the day.

    Have a great week-end.

  25. patricia hann
      · November 29th, 2013 at 7:04 pm · Link

    I celebrated my twins 11th bday on Thanksgiving. They were born on Thanksgiving day 11 years ago yesterday. 1128 On the way home from the city on the train the car we were riding in sang to them happy birthday. Such wonderful and loving people out there.

  26. judy
      · November 29th, 2013 at 7:33 pm · Link

    Glad you had a good Thanksgiving. We went to are second sons place and had a good day. May god be with you.

  27. Ruby Norwood
      · November 29th, 2013 at 8:32 pm · Link

    Glad you had a good Thanksgiving Linda. I did some good bargain shopping on this black Friday. It was my first time ever but had a great time with some friends.

  28. Angela M Maivelett
      · November 29th, 2013 at 9:24 pm · Link

    I dislike Black Friday with a passion. Angie

  29. Sue Hodge
      · November 29th, 2013 at 9:49 pm · Link

    Always glad to hear your kind words. Just glad you take the time for us with your e-mails
    Thanks Sue

  30. Lea Williams
      · November 29th, 2013 at 11:26 pm · Link

    Why is it Black Friday anyway? Blessed is a much better name for it. Still won’t go shop that day. Had a collision with the ground off my horse on Wednesday. Was glad we had planned to go out then went to some good friends for pie and a wonderful evening. Our town kids all had to work. That stinks as far as I was concerned. None work in essential type jobs. Hope tomorrow I can walk better. Actually it is my foot more than ankle. My fault entirely Sage did nothing bad. I still cna’t wait to meet those Wyoming folks. Blessings :)

  31. Gloria
      · November 30th, 2013 at 12:06 am · Link

    I just read this and a whole lot more, about Black Friday and how it started. It was on the AOL “home page” or whatever it is called. …….at some point in the 1950s or 1960s — some put the date exactly at 1966 — supposedly, the Philadelphia Police Department started to refer to the day after Thanksgiving as “Black Friday,” with the unrealistic hope that people would find the whole shebang distasteful and opt out of the collective consumer madness. At a minimum, it was a derisive way to describe an unpleasant day in the life of a Philly cop…………I hope I’m not infringing on anyone’s copyright, or anything, I’m just repeating public news. But, I thought it was interesting. And, I can believe it from all I’ve heard. I’ve never gone shopping on Black Friday. I couldn’t if I wanted to as I don’t have the means to go shopping, but if I was rich beyond measure, I woudln’t go. I don’t the like crowds, rudeness, and downright meaness of some of the shoppers. I agree with every statement made in all the comments but the one who did have the nerve to go, but…I admire nerve.

    Linda, I’m glad you had a good Thanksgiving, and pray you have a good and Godly weekend.

  32. Jan Buckles
      · November 30th, 2013 at 12:10 am · Link

    I agree with everyone about loving the “blessed Friday” comment! A very positive thing!

  33. Sandra Wheeler
      · November 30th, 2013 at 2:19 am · Link

    I just love the way you expressed your gratitude for the greatest gift we have ever received. Our God. Thank you so much.

  34. Connie Johnson
      · November 30th, 2013 at 10:09 am · Link

    Nice sermon, we all need it, we are all blessed beyond what we deserve.

  35. Helena James
      · November 30th, 2013 at 11:10 am · Link

    “Maybe Christmas he said
    doesn’t come from a store.
    Maybe Christmas he said
    means a little bit more. :wink:

  36. Becky in Hauser, Idaho
      · November 30th, 2013 at 11:39 am · Link

    Stopped at a couple of stores on my way to babysit grandkids Friday morning, but the couple things I would have purchased were sold out ( Thanksgiving Day shoppers got them all ). Oh well, decided this year that I am not going to let shopping take away from my peace and happiness during the holiday season. It all works out in the end. :)

  37. zola udell
      · November 30th, 2013 at 4:17 pm · Link

    Thank you. Preaching or not, those words warmed my heart, and I’ll have to agree by saying AMEN and AMEN. Keep the Peace indeed.

  38. Norma Stanforth
      · November 30th, 2013 at 9:37 pm · Link

    Thank you Linda you can preach any time you want to i love read what you write all the time Well i did indulge i should not of done that but everything tasted so good. Thank you for you blog. Hope everyone had a great Thanksgiving we all have a lot to be thankful, just to be alive an a roof over our heads and food on our tables. God blessings to everyone.
    As always your friend,

  39. Lois Rotella
      · December 1st, 2013 at 12:02 pm · Link

    I had a nice thanksgiving. I did not shop on so call black friday. I do not believe in it. I use to enjoy shopping for family and seeing the decorations and not being rushed. I guess all the crowds make me nervous. I guess that come with getting older. Glad to hear you had a nice time with your family and pets.
    Rest, relax and enjoy !!!

  40. Diana
      · December 1st, 2013 at 6:35 pm · Link

    I am so happy to hear you set a new tone for Black Friday. Blessed Friday is beautiful and I have shared it with my friends. For as much as I love all the cooking and family, it was also nice to wake up on ‘Blessed Friday’ and relax while munching and reading one of your wonderful novels. Please know that you never have to apologize for speaking from your heart or your faith. It seems like so many now feel unable to do that, whether it be from the Bible or experience. I for one are delighted to hear you share and since we are still able to express our views in this country, Amen to that. God’s blessings Linda. Thank you for all the joy you bring to so many.

  41. Hilda
      · December 2nd, 2013 at 5:56 pm · Link

    Yes, black Friday should be blessed Friday, good one! Thank you for the thoughts. I also offer one I came up with a couple of years ago. Thanksgiving is not so much WHAT we are thankful for, but to WHOM we are thankful!

    I had thought they call it Black Friday because that’s the day that most businesses are guaranteed to have profits, in other words, “in the black”. Maybe that was incorrect?

    Anyway, on to Christmas! Gotta get my tree etc., up soon!!

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