#1 NYT bestselling author Linda Lael Miller


Today, I celebrate

I have just “re-upped” with my wonderful publishers, Harlequin, and I am thrilled.  So even though I’m feeling my deadline bearing down on me, I think I’ll celebrate today.  :)  Also, the plumbers are here, pounding and drilling as they put in the new bathroom for the guest room, which happens to be directly across the hall from where I write.  Excuses, excuses!

Our winner for this week, by the way, is Betty Hamilton.  Betty, by now you should have received an email from Super-Jen, the assistant who can leap tall buildings in a single bound and bend steel in her bare hands. 

OK, new contest.  But let me explain the plan first.  :)  The questions I ask are really meant to get a dialogue going between all of us, and the winner will be chosen at random.  Prizes: a signed book, as usual, AND either a lovely pair of arm-warmers, made by my clever sister Sally, OR a bracelet, made by my other clever sister, Pam.  :)  You can see their work, if you’re so inclined, on Etsy, under Thankful Rose and Polymerpamela, respectively.

The question?  If you could live your life over again, what would you do differently?  And what wouldn’t you change?  I’m going to ponder that one a little–or a lot–and I’ll say a few words about it here on the blog.

Winter continues–you’d think it was January or something–and I am in a much better state of mind than I usually am at this time of year.  (The big meltdown of 2008 comes to mind.)  A lot of factors enter in, of course–primarily prayer.  I can’t say enough about what listening to the Daily Audio Bible (dailyaudiobible.com) every day has done for me–the changes are too personal to describe, even if I could find the words.  Let’s just say, it’s all good.  :)  Another reason is that I simply decided that I wouldn’t let the weather and its accompanying restrictions bother me, and I don’t.  I shift my focus to the many good things in my life, and say a prayer of gratitude.

Sure, I’m stuck in the house.  But, good heavens, I HAVE a house, so what am I complaining about?  I’m not living on the sidewalk, hoping to get a bed in a shelter on any given night.

I also tend to put on weight in the winter.  Flip of the coin: in my life, too much food is the problem.  In many people’s experience, it’s too little food.  Beyond the Western Hemisphere, this is pretty much the case everywhere.

I could go on and on, but you get the picture.  What I tell myself is this: call 1-800-BOO-HOO.

In closing, be safe, be well, and be kind.

Because kindness is love, and what the world needs now, in the words of the old song, is love, sweet love.

 

 

58 comments to “Today, I celebrate”

  1. Teresa
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      · January 24th, 2013 at 1:41 pm · Link

    What I would change is going back so soon after my children were born. Should have stayed home and enjoyed them more. Never worked shift work, etc. I can say this now that they are 26, 28, & 30 this year and expecting grandchild #5 in Mid March, (oldest one won’t be 3 until 4/4.) Wish I could retire and just be full time Grammy. But hindsight is always 20/20!



    • Beverly
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        · January 24th, 2013 at 1:54 pm · Link

      I waited until the last one was in First Grade to go back to work and those were such precious years.



      • Norma Stanforth
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          · January 24th, 2013 at 4:16 pm · Link

        Beverly, that is so great, you are right those are the precious years. Norma :-P



  2. Beverly
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      · January 24th, 2013 at 1:52 pm · Link

    If I could go back and change things I would only want to change how much time I spent with my dad who passed a way suddenly. I didn’t meet him until I was almost 25 and he passed 11 years later. Didn’t get enough time with him….



    • Beverly
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        · January 24th, 2013 at 7:46 pm · Link

      Linda I love your sisters crafty sites on etsy. I’m a knitter and I especially liked the wristlets. They have some beautiful stuff.



  3. Kris Myers
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      · January 24th, 2013 at 1:58 pm · Link

    First, I would have gone to college back when I worked for an employer who would have paid for it instead of waiting until I was married with 3 kids. This is HARD!
    Second, I would have been more physically active and watched my diet better so I wouldn’t have such a hard fight with my weight now and I could have been a better role model for my kids. Now I spend a lot of time saying do as I say not as I did.
    As far as something I’d never change…waiting to get married so that my husband and I could find each other and have our three amazing kids. Also, teaching them my love for reading!



  4. Pam Brewer
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      · January 24th, 2013 at 2:12 pm · Link

    Although there are many things I would like to change – staying in college as opposed to going now that I am in my 50’s, keeping off the weight when I lost it many times – to change things would change where I am now. And while not everything is perfect, who is to say things wouldn’t be worse if the circumstances were changed? I am happy with my life, warts and all, and I’m not so sure I would be happy in a different situation. Of course, it would be fun to spy on my “other” life :)



  5. Michele
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      · January 24th, 2013 at 2:37 pm · Link

    If I could have a “do-over” the only thing I would change is forcing my mother-in-law to see a doctor on a regular basis. Maybe then she wouldn’t have had a stroke. I would like to have been more confident in my younger years that I was deserving of the wonderful husband I have. Maybe if I hadn’t been so unsure that two people could love each other so much I would be more relaxed and not so stressed and insecure. As for the rest, I think I learned and grew from all of the ups and downs. I know I wished my mother didn’t have a surgery to remove a tumor that left her partially paralized but I think became more caring and tolerant of others. I am a true believer that all things happen for a reason. I guess I am secure enough to say “I love my life the way it turned out”. If it hadn’t been for the books of a few wonderful authors, I would be in a depression or in therapy. :wink:
    I don’t want to take anything in this life God has given me for granted. I hope I am doing what He expects from me. If I stray, I think He gives me a little nudge back on the road. :) Thank you Linda for this question. Sometimes we need to look back at our lives and a look at ourselves to appreciate what have.
    Life is good!!!



    • Liz M
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        · January 24th, 2013 at 2:48 pm · Link

      Michele I just read your comment and want to thank you for your posting. It made me smile and brought a warm feeling to my heart which I needed today. God knows what we need before we do and he sure did today :!: So please stay positive and know that you have changed my life today.



    • Jeanne Corrigan
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        · January 24th, 2013 at 7:15 pm · Link

      Michele that was great! I agree on the authors that have gotten us through the quiet times. They take us on adventures, show us there is hope there is love. but you are right, God is in control. He directs my path day by day and I couldn’t be happier!



    • Michele
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        · January 25th, 2013 at 9:03 am · Link

      Both of you touched my heart today. Thank you. :)



  6. kathy copeland
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      · January 24th, 2013 at 2:39 pm · Link

    1, I would have finished college 2, I would have spent more time with my parents ,who are both gone now. 3, I wouldn’t spend so much time worring about every little thing. 5,I would take more time to smell the roses. 6,I would tell my kids more, how wonderful they are and how loved they are.7, I would tell my husband more how much he means to me.



  7. Ange
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      · January 24th, 2013 at 2:39 pm · Link

    I would have taken better care of myself (smoker, overweight & sleep apnea).

    The thing I would not change is the relationship I have with my twin sister. We are as close as two humans can be. I have a great job and live in the country in a primitive log cabin with animals to take care of.



  8. Debbie Morgan
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      · January 24th, 2013 at 2:41 pm · Link

    If I could live my life over I would have been a little more selfish. I would have focused more on my health and education and less on others. I realize now that if I had said no more that someone else would have stepped in to do what I did. I use to think that if I didn’t do it it wouldn’t get done.



    • Michele
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        · January 25th, 2013 at 9:00 am · Link

      I understand what you’re saying Debbie but the world needs people like you. You wouldn’t be Debbie if you were more selfish. :wink:



  9. Liz M
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      · January 24th, 2013 at 2:45 pm · Link

    If I could live my life over again I would change my time with my Dad. He drank most of my life and then when I was in my 20’s he made a life changing decision to quit. He joined AA and I was blessed to be able to give him his 1 year anniversary cake. It was a real milestone in my life. I spent my childhood only knowing him as a drunk and then I was given a gift of sobriety. My dad moved away to Maine with my mom who kept on drinking and I did not keep in touch with him. So I would change that and make sure that I wrote, call or anything to keep in touch with him more. My dad died of blood poisoning due to something that happened in a nursing home. He stayed alive for 7 days without food or water waiting for me to come and see him. My brothers did not let me know how bad he was. I was able to be there for him and he died within hours of my being there with him. I do not hold any grudges of hurts. I just wanted more time with my sober Dad.
    What I would not change is my daughter Sarah she is now 25 years old and she is just the best thing that ever happened to me. She is my best friend and there is nothing that I would not do for her. I love her with all my heart and soul. :wink:



  10. Linda Hubalek
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      · January 24th, 2013 at 2:56 pm · Link

    Overall I’m just grateful that I’ve had family, health and grew up on a farm. I don’t want to change that. Some of what I thought were disasters or disappointments in life- were just bumps in the road.
    Just got to enjoy what we have…



  11. Beth B
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      · January 24th, 2013 at 3:50 pm · Link

    I believe everything happens for a reason all part of God’s plan but if I had a “do over” it would be that I would have finished college and established a career not just a job to put food on the table but something where I made a difference.
    What I would not have done different is got married 24 years ago and had my 3 beautiful sons. They make me proud everyday at the young men they have become so obviously I have done something very important in my life right.



  12. Betsy B
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      · January 24th, 2013 at 3:57 pm · Link

    As the song says-“regrets, I have a few…”

    I would have spent more time with my folks, and tried to overcome the barriers that one parent put in place to prevent friendship with the kids. I’d have taken better care of myself, too. And I would have been less cautious and rabbit-like about life events.
    I would have still married the same wonderful guy, and I have had a wonderful career. For that I am grateful.
    For you ladies going to school late-yes, it’s hard, but now you know what you want out of education-go for it!



  13. ruth r
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      · January 24th, 2013 at 4:09 pm · Link

    If I could live my life over again… At this moment in time, I probably wouldn’t do anything differently. All those stupid crazy choices I’ve made have brought me to where I am now. Of course there are parts of my life I wouldn’t want to re-do, but even all the awful times had some good or someone attached that I wouldn’t want to do without… No, I guess for good or bad, this is me, and my life as is.



  14. donna harris
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      · January 24th, 2013 at 4:18 pm · Link

    I think I would have changed in my life would be kept with riding horses. Stayed with it then maybe I would have married me a real Cowboy. Instead I married a guy who hung around with my brothers. I was ashamed of my dad he was the one of the town drunks, so I didn’t date and bring anyone home to meet the parents (dad). So I married a guy who knew about the family. I sold my horse because my husband didn’t like horses. I didn’t work so I’m grateful I got to raise the sons while growing up. But I would think what life would have been if I married a Cowboy. After 19 yrs of marriage I divorced him, he was cheating, and life went on. Jobs wasn’t that good because I didn’t have any experience. Not long after the divorce I got sick and now I’m disabled.
    What I wouldn’t change is my two sons. I raised them to be caring, loving, etc. I think they turned out better than alright. Also now I’m with a man completely different than the first. I couldn’t ask for a more warm, loving, caring and understanding man. Funny how things turn out for ones life.



  15. Rene Y
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      · January 24th, 2013 at 4:21 pm · Link

    I would spend the first 20 years more like I’ve spent the last 30, with less insecurity, less jealousy, more loving, more confidence and being more friendly. Of course the only way that would work is if I knew then what I know now.



  16. Norma Stanforth
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      · January 24th, 2013 at 5:18 pm · Link

    What i would change i don’t really know because i have had a lot of people come up to me and say, why didn’t i remarry after my husband past away, I was 26 and my children were age 2, 3, 5, and 6. I was afraid if i married some one and they didn’t treat my children right, we would have problems. Because my children are a gift from God. Besides i don’t know if i could every love anyone like i loved my husband. Another thing i would of chanced is i would of try to travel and seen so of my relative, now i am not able to, the most i can ride is fifteen miles. With out being in tremendous pain.So that keeps me from traveling.
    God bless each and everyone. :-P
    Norma Stanforth



  17. Lois Rotella
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      · January 24th, 2013 at 5:53 pm · Link

    That kinda question sets your mind to thinking. I would love to get to know my grandparents more and talk to them. I also would have loved to become the teacher I always hoped I could. I don’t think going back in time would change anything in my life. I think we are on a path and we would make the same decision we did the first time. As we all say 20 / 20 is hindsight. :wink:



  18. Mary Stahlecker
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      · January 24th, 2013 at 5:59 pm · Link

    If I was to do things differently, I would join the army. I had planned to when I was finishing high school. the other thing I would change would be to go to college.

    What I wouldn’t change would be where I am right now. I am in a good place mentally, physically and emotionally. I also have some good friends and know that they will be there to help me if and when I need it.
    I also volunteer at the VA Hospital at the front desk during the spring, summer and fall. I really enjoy giving something back. I also volunteer at Capital Rep Theater and I get to see the plays for free, including Leslie Uggams when she was there.
    Mary Stahlecker. :-P



  19. Cathy
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      · January 24th, 2013 at 6:55 pm · Link

    One of the things I would change is to realize that no one is perfect and I should be more patient,we all have regrets and things we would have done differently,but my life with it’s health issues/weight problem might have been changed if I had made better choices earlier.
    Right now I have my parents who are in their 70’s and they are a comfort and a joy to have around.So no changes there
    I traveled a lot when I was younger and wish I could some more there is so much too see in this great Country and in this World and I wouldn’t change that.
    .My job is fulfilling and God directed me into ICU nursing and although it isn’t a lot of fun it is my calling and I wouldn’t change that.
    not too many regrets then



  20. Jeanne Corrigan
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      · January 24th, 2013 at 7:11 pm · Link

    What would I do if I could do it again. Two things come to mind. 1st, my husband and I love to travel, he was in the Army for the first 8 years of our marriage, and we did a bit of travel, plus we got to live in Germany for awhile. I wish we had stayed in the Army for the 20 years and travelled more. Then he could have retired. 2nd, I wish I had not taken my moms advise and tried out for the musical that was going to play at my high school. I love to sing. And I found out later in life that I love to act on stage. I did several Christmas musicals at my church in Raleigh and loved it. I still sing as often as I can just not on stage!



  21. Janice Hougland
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      · January 24th, 2013 at 7:56 pm · Link

    I wouldn’t change a thing about my life. I made some of what could be called mistakes, but blessings came from those so-called mistakes and I wouldn’t give up those blessings for anything. I am content.



  22. Tia
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      · January 24th, 2013 at 7:57 pm · Link

    I’d be more adventurous and not over-analize everything. Helping others is something that comes naturally and I wouldn’t want that to change.



  23. Emily
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      · January 24th, 2013 at 9:18 pm · Link

    I would not change anything in my life. It has been loaded with unbeliveable heartache, but it has made me the person I am today. Losing a child is the worst possible thing that can happen to parents, but we have survived and have learned how to go on. (God has a plan.)
    My husband and I have been able to travel with our children and without them. They have been true blessing in our life!
    I have more things to be happy and content about than not. I am blessed that I am now able to read books again as I didn’t have the concentration to do so after our son died. Your cowboy books have also brought me back to life! :) What a blessing I have in friends and family. :)
    Keep the great books coming! Can’t wait as I need a new book to read!



    • Gloria
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        · January 27th, 2013 at 10:47 pm · Link

      Emily, I can truly say I KNOW how you feel. Nothing is worse, and the age of the child doesn’t matter in the least. I had my son for 40 years, 1 month, and 22 days, and it is still hard, although it has been a little over 6 years and 3 months.

      I don’t know how long it has been for you, but I will say a special prayer for you.



      • Emily
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          · January 28th, 2013 at 11:02 am · Link

        Gloria, It will be 16 years in May. He died right before Mother’s day and my birthday. He was 32, massive stroke! Left 2 children. How dear of you to say prayers for us. I will do the same for you and yours. Our faith is what keeps us strong.
        I have not been back on line as the computer went down!

        I have just now been able to read again. Thank God for Linda and her wonderful stories. I am forever in her debt!
        Hugs to you Gloria and my prayers too.



  24. Anne Little
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      · January 24th, 2013 at 9:32 pm · Link

    If I could go back and live my life over again I would focus more on education. I would pay a little closer attention to my health. Making healthier choices. I would pick and choose my words more carefully and focused more on kindness. I would save a little more money, spend a little more time with family just listening and laughing. Allowed myself a closer relationship with God.

    What wouldn’t I change? Having my children and or all the beautiful, rough and rocky early days of Motherhood. I learned more about myself and the world then I did at any other time of my life.



  25. Jackie Q
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      · January 24th, 2013 at 9:41 pm · Link

    If I could live my life over again, I would ask my parents about their parents and what it was like when they were growing up in the 1920’s and 1930’s. My Father died when I was 18 and I was a selfish teenager who never thought of him as a person until after I became a parent so I never asked him about his parents or his childhood while he was alive. His mother was my only grandparent and she died when I was 12. His father died when he was 12 so I never knew him. My Mother’s father died before I was born and her mother died 3 months after I was born. My Mother died a few years ago and even though she could tell me a little about her childhood, she didn’t really remember anything about her parents who came from Ireland in the early 1900’s as my Mom had dementia the last 10 years. I really regret not asking them about themselves and their history and feel there is something missing from my history because I never asked. What I wouldn’t change from my life is bringing up my daughter by myself. Her father and I split up before her 3rd birthday and then he disappeared from our lives 6 months later. It wasn’t easy being both mother and father but she’s a hardworking, wonderful person who will graduate from college this year and I couldn’t be more prouder of the person she has become.



  26. Lea Williams
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      · January 24th, 2013 at 10:15 pm · Link

    If I could change anything, I would not have gotten married so young and gone to college and pursued my dream. However that dream has changed. I would have married the same guy, 55 years, just a little later.
    What I would not change is my love of my horses. At 75, they still are my passion.



  27. Norma Stanforth
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      · January 24th, 2013 at 11:53 pm · Link

    Congratulation, Betty, on your win. I know you will enjoy your gifts! :-P God bless you.
    Norma Stanforth



  28. BARBARA S
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      · January 25th, 2013 at 12:15 am · Link

    I would make sure I finished college before getting married. To have had that education right then instead of having to start all over after my divorce would have changed so many things. I probably would have been better equipped to care for myself and not be afraid to go out on my own. Would not want to change my beautiful children, grandchildren and great-grandchildren.



  29. sam
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      · January 25th, 2013 at 9:04 am · Link

    Congratulations Betty! :)



  30. Brenda
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      · January 25th, 2013 at 10:26 am · Link

    In many ways, my life has made me what I am today. A loyal friend, Good Mom, and I hope as good of a daughter has my mom could be proud of. However, hindsite….being what it is….I wishedI had finished my formal education and gone on to do something I love. And I would have chosen a life partner more wisely. I hope I would have found a man that would have truly loved me for me. And to do it over, with God in my life on profound way……I was pretty luke warm for too many years.



  31. Sharon S.
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      · January 25th, 2013 at 1:02 pm · Link

    I love my life. The only thing I might change is that I might have gotten a better education. Only high school, but today at the ripe old age of 60, I’m an Executive Secretary for a nursing director at a large hospital. So I didn’t do too bad.

    I definately would be more money savy, i.e. more money into the 401K so I could retire soon, but that didn’t happen. No one to teach me those things. BUT, I still have my parents, my two dogs and kitty cat, my own condo a block and a half from parents and many friends in my community. So I haven’t done half bad.

    I probably would have gone with my first instinct and NOT married my second husband. He had mean eyes and I chastised myself for thinking bad thoughts having just met him. Turned out he was a hitter. After 7 years, I dumped him and have been giddily happy ever since. I am woman, watch me roar!!! Thank you Linda for all you do. You are, and have always been my favorite writer. Favorite book, Man from Stone Creek. Love my Sam.



  32. Rebecca (Becky) Hicks
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      · January 25th, 2013 at 2:11 pm · Link

    I LOVED your response to feeling “down”–1-800-BOO-HOO! (Have issue with diagnosed depression, but meds create other issues–anxiety med helps some. Like the commercial, I just “muscle” through it.) Part of what you wrote will go in my journal, so I can do better when my pity-party sets in. CHANGES: live on my own before I married (I’ve put others first (mostly!) since I was 17 & sometimes wish I could put myself first–selfish, I know); get my M.A. in Humanities (already have the knowledge, just not the paper). NOT CHANGE: my husband, father of my two sons & my best friend. In 47+ yrs we’ve had lots of bumps & pot holes, even mountains & crevasses, but that’s brought us to today, and I am so blessed. I might change some decisions & events, but not that decision. :-P



  33. Hilda
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    I would go back to the day I introduced my sister to a friend-of-a-friend. She had a 1-night stand with him, had a daughter as a result, which set in motion good events and bad, but for some reason the bad events have always seemed to hurt or adversely affect me, and to be blunt, I’ve suffered for them ever since. (Taking care of my sister’s kids and the kids of my sister’s kids – off-and-on and still doing it, 32 years later.) I love my nieces, nephew, and great-nieces and nephews, but I’m the bearer of the burdens for some reason. Inability to say “no” probably. But on a much brighter note, CONGRATULATIONS on the renewed contract with Harlequin! They are smart to keep you!!!!!



  34. Dawn roberts
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      · January 25th, 2013 at 2:22 pm · Link

    If I had to do it again, I would finish that last two classes to get my college degree. I would never change the man I married or the wonderful children we have. Maybe I’ll go back to school, but at almost 50, not sure who would hire me. Maybe a business degree? :wink: :lol:



  35. Dawn roberts
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      · January 25th, 2013 at 2:23 pm · Link

    The things I would change would be to have completed my college degree, and not stopped 6 credits short. However, I would never change my wonderful husband or the incredible children we have.



  36. Juanita Rice
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      · January 25th, 2013 at 2:30 pm · Link

    Lucky Harlequin!!!! :) Congrats, Linda!!

    I’m not sure what, if anything, I would do differently with my life if I had it to do over. Of course, if I had detailed memoirs of how I did it the first time… Oh, dear! That brings up a myriad of possibilities! :)

    There IS one thing that I know for sure I would change…I would not send my second son to school at five years of age. His siblings were six and that extra year at home has stood them in good stead their whole lives…as it has with the grandchildren. But he wanted to go to school and begged as any five-year-old can. I did him a disservice that followed him his whole life. (Never fear. He turned out okay. It was just much harder on him and took him longer.)



  37. Joy H
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      · January 25th, 2013 at 4:34 pm · Link

    I am so content and happy with my present life.
    I lost my parents at a young age and would love to go back to my childhood and question them about their childhood and
    my grandparents. I’m into genealogy and feel so sad that
    I missed all that personal info. I also wish I had finished
    college. The rest of my life has been very fulfilling.



  38. Tinna Doub
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    When we’re young, We think we have our whole life in front of us & plenty of time to live it, explore it & grow up! So I moved a state away from home. That’s my one change I would relive. I Would have stayed closer to home. Closer to my parents, as my Dad is now gone. In whatever we experience in our lives, We have God! Living closer to family would be a great support system. I wouldn’t be the person I am today without my past to shape me. What I wouldn’t change is:1 God in my life 2 My husband, b/c without him I wouldn’t have my son!



  39. Sue Peace
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      · January 25th, 2013 at 5:39 pm · Link

    It’s really hard to say what I might have done differently…although part of me wishes I’d done more/longer big city living, I am also happy I was able to come back home when my Dad got sick because I was so close. I’ve often said I wish I’d written down all the stories he used to tell me about when he was a young boy/man in Scotland, because you always think you’ll have forever…or at least a lot longer, then suddenly you don’t.
    I wouldn’t change a thing about my kids…I must have been so bored before them!!!
    And congratulations to you!!!



    • Hilda
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      Oh Sue, you are so right! My family has so many brave and incredible stories of being in Holland and being at the mercy of the Nazi’s, why didn’t I write them all down? I could kick myself, too, about memorializing my awesome family’s history. I love your last name, by the way!!



  40. Linda Cholewa
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      · January 25th, 2013 at 7:50 pm · Link

    I have made some choices in my life that were not the best in hindsight. I think the one thing I would have done differently would have been to go to college right after high school instead of listening to my fiance (at the time), who promised I would be able to go the next year after we were married. I did end up going to college, 11 years later, after I divorced him.

    The one thing I would not change is marrying my first husband. Although I did divorce him, if I had not married him in the first place, I would not have my two wonderful children. Also, I may never have met my second husband, with whom I just celebrated 25 years of happiness. :)



  41. Gloria
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    I don’t think I would change anything big in my life. If I hadn’t been poor and had to make do growing up, I wouldn’t be able to live now that I’m back to making do.

    If I hadn’t had a bad marriage, I wouldn’t have had my two sons. And even though I lost one and the other is disabled, I am so thankful I had them and got to see them grow up and make lives of their own.

    I have more character because of the life I lived before and I know how to live in a world where if we lost all power, and other things, I could still make it, as long as I had food and water, so…I don’t think I’d change any of the big things.

    There are many small things I would change if I could go back, and I’d try to stand up for myself more and have more self confidence.

    Congratulations to Betty, in case I didn’t say so before and to you, too, Linda.

    I just finished reading The Legacy and Courting Susannah, thanks to Sam and have started A Lawman’s Christmas. And, as soon as I finish it, I’ll read An Outlaw’s Christmas, thanks to Hilda I really enjoyed the two I just finished. Thanks for writing them.



    • Hilda
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        · January 26th, 2013 at 4:16 pm · Link

      Gloria,
      Our treasures are in Heaven, and the things of earth will pass away into nothingness when Jesus comes for us. That’s what Jesus said, and I pray that you can keep the faith in the middle of your struggles. You are an outstanding woman who deserves the best! I’m thankful to Linda for “introducing” us! I pray your struggles get fewer and fewer; at our age, we do deserve a break from earthly burdens!



      • Gloria
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          · January 27th, 2013 at 10:55 pm · Link

        Thank you, Hilda!!!!

        I finished The Lawman’s Christmas and finished the Outlaw’s Christmas, just today. Thank you for them and thanks to Linda for writitng them.

        I, too, am thankful to Linda for both you and Sam. If I hadn’t found Linda’s Blog, I’d have lost out on 2 special friends, and a lot of other nice people. Thank you Linda! As has been said…You never know the impact you have on another person’s life, just by being yourself.



  42. Sue G
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      · January 27th, 2013 at 8:55 am · Link

    Things that I would change—theres a few like a little more self-confidence and weight control, but minor in the whole picture. Things that I would not change—my wonderful husband of 37 years next month and our 2 amazing sons, the youngest, who stays with us when he is in town with his job and our oldest who chose to build a home next to where we built ours. He also had our only 2 grandson who we get to see almost everyday which is a joy, and a reason to stay young, and the most wonderful daughter-in-law in the world who we love like a daughter. Like I always say “LIFE IS GOOD”



  43. Sandi Hill
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      · January 27th, 2013 at 3:48 pm · Link

    The only thing I would change about my life if I had it to do over is to stay in college and earn a teaching degree. I worked in schools for over 20 years as a paraprofessional and then a high school secretary and there is no more satisfaying job then to work with kids. To see their eyes light up when they finally get a concept that they have been struggling with is truly inspiring. I would not change who I married, my two wonderful children or any other part of my life. We have been blessed. Love, Sandi



  44. Patricia M Hann
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      · January 27th, 2013 at 9:42 pm · Link

    I would deal with the death of my mom (I was 6 at the time) earlier. Instead of waiting to I was in my mid 30s.



  45. Christine Gaskill
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      · January 28th, 2013 at 12:24 pm · Link

    Big Question, as I get older I have more regret.
    I was a heavy child and during the 70’s most children were slim, in fact just me and one other boy in my entire elemetary school were overweight. The ridicule, or what they refer to now as bullying was a part of my everyday life. No matter where I went, at summer camp I was donned “thunder thighs”.Because of this I did not grow a thick skin as others would, I believed I was worthless.
    I did marry after I got pregnant my senior year. It seems the only attention I could get from boys was if I was ‘easy’ and although I did find someone to love me, it ended up an unhappy union. I never went to college, had 3 kids by the time I was 21. I was depressed and gained more and more weight. My husband told me he no longer found me attractive after I topped 300 lbs.
    And then I had a weight loss surgery. As the weight came off the more attention I got from men. I remember my mother saying how lucky I was to view life from being heavy and shunned to beautifull and desired. My self esteem was still low, I felt pretty and every man that gave me attention I thought I ‘owed’ for his attentions. My husbands jelousy was overbearing and we divorced. I have remarried and am happy but I have gained weight back after having a child in my early 30’s. Now that I am in my 40’s I look back and would love to do my life over again as a THIN person. Would I have confidence and restraint? Would I have married well, gone to school,been a model, actress, been a teacher as I had wanted? My weight ruined me and it was other people, from family to school mates to strangers that over the years ingrained in me a lack of self worth.
    So, if I could, I would live my life again without a weight problem.



  46. Christine Gaskill
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      · January 28th, 2013 at 12:25 pm · Link

    BTW- I would never change the love and respect I have for my Mother. She was/is my rock.



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